What if your relationship angst is actually part of the revolution?

Inside: tools, insight, and collective nervous system support for the portal you’re in

Welcome to Coming Home, my weekly newsletter for people who are healing, remembering, and occasionally sharing cat memes about boundaries. I’m Natasha Levinger, inner child intuitive, energy healer, and author of Inner Child Healing: Reparenting Yourself for a More Secure and Loving Life.

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Before this year when someone would say, “it was the best of times, it was the worst of times,” they were usually exaggerating for humor’s sake and I would laugh and they would laugh, we’d clink our glasses together with the energy of people who really weren’t experiencing that at all and move on with our lives. Remember when we could move on with our lives? Even just a little bit? That was nice.

But now that we are very much here in fascism, it’s wild to be both inundated by the onslaught of human rights being violated before our very eyes whilst simultaneously feeling more connected to humanity than ever before.

I know that at least in my bubble, I’m not the only one feeling this “both/and” right now.

I’m a little afraid to tell you this next thing at the risk of sounding absolutely disgusting, but over the past few months there have been many nights that I’ll climb into bed and look into my husband’s eyes and become so overwhelmed by how much I love him and how grateful I am that I get to experience this life with him that I start to cry.

And it’s not just limited to him. I have a visceral gratitude for so much in my life.

And then, you know, as I mentioned, there are the horrors.

I know many of you are experiencing the feeling of expansion and also contraction right now and this month in particular (hello Libra season, you feisty minx!) it seems to be relational.

Collective Energy Update: From Trauma Bond to Tuning Fork

What I’m sensing across the field is a relational recalibration and it’s not just about romance or connection. We’re in a moment where relational contracts are expiring—quietly or dramatically, pick your poison!—and the inner system is being asked to update how it defines belonging, trust, intimacy, and self.

Some of the strongest patterns I’m seeing surfacing include:

Repetition & Recognition Loops

Old dynamics are reappearing (and this is important) to give you a choice point. You might notice people circling back into your life, or having sudden clarity about what a long-term relationship has actually been about (including friendships, business partnerships, or family).

The system is asking:

“Are you playing out the same pattern, or are you ready to hold a new frequency?” This can end up feeling like both grief and empowerment simultaneously. (Get you a girl who can do both, I guess?)

Mirror Crack or Mirror Clarity?

People are discovering they were mirrored through a distorted lens. Relationships built on enmeshment, caretaking, or subtle fusion are cracking. This is especially intense for those healing codependency or hypervigilance patterns.

This doesn’t mean the relationship is ending necessarily, but the terms of energetic engagement are being rewritten. This is good news, babe! Even if your inner child is wincing at the thought of it.

Some are feeling grief where closeness once lived, others are feeling relief that a relational spell has broken. And again, rinse and repeat: both can happen at once.

Pulls and Pushes

There’s also a high-frequency magnetism right now: fast connections, reunions, intense attraction, or catalytic collisions. This can be a new person or someone from the past appearing in dreams, messages, or synchronicities.

The field is testing how well you trust your feeling about whether this connection is good or bad, without needing confirmation from the other person.

Underneath It All: A Shift in Attachment to Attachment (see what I did there?)

The deeper truth here is that the collective is in a portal of emotional sovereignty. And truthfully, thank Goddess, hallelujah, praise that Lord—we need this shift!
People are not just healing from others, they are releasing the habit of defining themselves through others.

This is huge! It can feel like loneliness, heartbreak, or even nostalgia for patterns that once felt like home. But what’s actually happening is:

• False safety is dissolving.

• True resonance is emerging.

• Your inner baddie is emerging from the shadows of your psyche like a plot twist you did not see coming.
  (AKA: Ladies be playas too.)

Healing, But Make it a Bloodline Interruption

This is not just personal healing. It’s a species-wide nervous system upgrade. A quantum pivot. NBD.

This evolution is playing out relationally because relationship has been the site of wounding in families, in systems, in society. The nervous system learned to survive through adaptation and attunement to others. But now:

We are evolving from co-regulation as control to coherence as collective power. AKA the feminine is rising, and she is beautiful and she is real. (iykyk)

I truly believe that is our new timeline, if you choose to accept it.

The Personal Reflects the Planetary

Relational dynamics right now are acting as mirrors of the larger paradigm we’re leaving behind:

• One person always doing the emotional labor? That’s capitalism in miniature.

• Playing small to keep the peace? That’s the patriarchy playing through your cells.

• Collapsing into urgency, needing to be chosen? That’s the trauma of conditional love rooted in systemic abandonment.

And what we’re moving into can’t be accessed through the same scripts.

Instead, there’s an evolutionary opportunity:

• To feel the old pain without reenacting it.

• To stay present with relational discomfort without collapsing into the role of fixer, scapegoat, or savior.

• To stay in the space between, where new codes can land.

This is what makes it collective.

And I wasn’t planning on putting this here, but this is also exactly why I’ve added a live group call to the paid tier of this Substack.

When I channel the script for my live calls they are not just meditations, they are activations.

We release the old.
We download the new.
We ground into the most aligned and powerful timeline.

You should totally join us. (And there’s always a recording if you can’t make it live.)

The March, the Movement, the Mirror

Now, zooming out even more: Saturday’s march—and any organized action—is also part of this healing. Because the systems we’re fighting are built on fractured relational fields:

• Separation consciousness.

• Worth based on productivity or dominance.

• Safety through obedience, not mutuality.

So every time we practice real connection—boundaried, sovereign, resonant—we’re rewiring the grid. It’s powerful energetic rewiring with real world affects.

Community healing isn’t an afterthought. It’s the scaffolding for sustainable revolution.

And here’s the magic that makes me tear up with love for all of us:

The same nervous system that’s learning to say “I don’t need to chase love”, is the same one that can stand in protest and say “We deserve to exist, fully and freely.”

How to Heal Through This Portal

Here’s what I’m seeing supports the evolution, personally and collectively:

1. Let the Relational Ruptures Be Teachers

Don’t rush to fix or freeze dynamics. Let them show you where an old paradigm was still running. The insight is the healing.

2. Bring the Body Into It

Walk. Shake. March. Breathe. Speak. Let the energy metabolize, don’t just intellectualize (or even spiritualize) it. This is embodied activism.

3. Reclaim Desire as Direction

Instead of asking “What will make them stay?” or “What will make this safe?” What’s more anti-capitalistic than to ask:

”What lights me up?”
”What do I love to do regardless of outcome?”
“What do I want to build instead?”

That’s where the next timeline activates.

4. Be in Resonant Community

Even just one relationship where you don’t have to contort, collapse, or earn your place is proof of evolution. Share space with others who are holding the new grid. You are not meant to do this alone.

And in Case You Needed to Hear This: Your Pattern Isn’t a Failure. It’s a Portal.

The pattern that’s painful? The relationship that’s shifting? The pain in the ol’ buttocks that keeps circling back?

It’s not proof that there’s something wrong with you (that’s the old paradigm talking).
It’s a signal that your system is ready to evolve.

Stay with the discomfort.
Stay with your truth.
And if you’re marching this weekend, know that the version of you learning to hold yourself relationally is already part of the movement.

You’re not just healing for yourself.
You’re anchoring a new architecture of what it means to be a human.
And I, for one, am so grateful to be doing it alongside all of you.

In solidarity and courage for the new day that’s dawning,

Natasha

Here are other ways I can support you:

My book (now in its second printing!), “Healing Your Inner Child: Reparenting Yourself for a More Secure and Loving Life,” My podcast, Crystal Ballers! Get insight/support/tools about one question with Ask Natasha, fill out an application for my small psychic group mentorship, and my 1:1 psychic mentorship, my therapeutic mentorship, and schedule a 1:1 here.